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Marcia Abboud's avatar

I remember this one, Bette. It's one of my favourites! It reminds me of a book that a palliative care nurse wrote about the things people say on their deathbeds. Not one of them said, "I wish I worked harder or longer." No one mentions work or careers. We are all just numbers, as it turns out.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

Yes, I can't imagine anyone on their deathbed saying I wish I would've gone into the office more often. Although some of the CEOs forcing employees back into the office might โ€“ who knows.

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David โ˜•'s avatar

Life in corporate has its moments - hope that incident prone admin gets some mentoring

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

Oh, she fit right into the current culture, no mentoring needed! By the way, I saw the portrait you did of Neela and you even managed to capture her spiciness in the image - amazingly done!

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Colleen Millerman's avatar

Oh goodness, the title already had me on the edge of my seat and it just kept getting worse. Sometimes you just have to laugh these things off but how incredibly inconsiderate.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

Thanks for reading and commenting Colleen. It was just one misstep after the next. It was hard to believe it wasnโ€™t from some comedy show, but it was not.

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Shlee's avatar

Oh no! ๐Ÿ˜‚ Well, not that your friend was second-guessing her decision to retire, but if she was, hopefully all the mess ups served as confirmation sheโ€™s making the right decision!

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

Sheโ€™s very happy and trust me that sealed the deal it was def time to leave!

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Neela ๐ŸŒถ๏ธ's avatar

Oh jeez - the most important part in my book.

Thatโ€™s just the kind of touch you donโ€™t forget (for all the wrong reasons, of course).

Poor planning and lack of attention to detail. I feel bad for your friend.

Did she at least get a nice pension or bonus for putting up with crap for 18 years?

Happy Monday Bette.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

It was just one misstep after the next and in so many ways. I told her she should have planned it herself. At least then it would have been exactly what she wanted without the drama!

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Neela ๐ŸŒถ๏ธ's avatar

I ended up having to plan my farewell in NYC lol

Cuz it needed to be perfect hahaha

Happy Tuesday Bette

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Lisa Cunningham DeLauney's avatar

Oh dear. Too many inconsiderate elements to brush it off as a simple mistake. I hope she took it as a sign that she'd done the right thing by getting out. Hopefully she got a nice pay off or pension.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

She could not be happier that she left trust me. But these are the type of things in an organization and the reasons people are so disengaged. Just lack of consideration and respect.

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Mack Collier's avatar

Very sad that this happened to your friend. The fact that they handed most of the planning off to a newer worker who hadnโ€™t proven themselves shows it wasnโ€™t a priority. And it doesnโ€™t seem like the boss made it much of one either.

So if Iโ€™m working for this company, all this does is convince me I need to get out before I give them a chance to blunder my retirement send off!

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

Exactly Mack. Itโ€™s just interesting how people donโ€™t realize how these little things add up and have a huge impact on people and organizations. Weโ€™re not talking about grand gestures here. It's the small stuff that slowly builds over time.

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Paul Chaney's avatar

This sounds like a script from a sitcom. Or, Murphy's Law -- everything that can go wrong did -- and at your friend's expense.

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Bette A. Ludwig, PhD ๐ŸŒฑ's avatar

I know right! It's the exact reason that people are so disengaged at work. There's such a lack of consideration and respect for employees. And this is just the inevitable result of that.

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